Today is your second day of school and its still a short day (1.5hours instead of the actual 2.5hours). Mommy Daddy was supposed to let you be in class alone today while we wait outside the windows. We said byebye to you and initially you were ok for some time. You were walking around exploring the toys. And whenever you look over we smiled at you and indicated we are here and you should continue playing.
You kept coming to the window. and even opened the cabinets under the window to see whats inside. you also kept running out of the classroom. Sometimes you were held back by the teachers, once you ran out so fast the teachers didn't see you.
At one time, you found a necklace, and you put it on and showed mommy at the window.
During one of the times you ran out, you started crying when you were restrained. I continued being positive and smiling at you but now it doesn't work anymore. You want to be with us, not separated by a wall and windows. You have started crying very badly, and your chinese teacher carried you and wiped away your tears.
You stopped a while when the class went to the toilet.
Then continued when you came back.
By now, Mommy Daddy were hiding at another side, I think you cried coz you cannot see us. You cannot imagine how our heart is breaking hearing and seeing you cry like that, yet knowing the best thing for you is not to rush in.
Mdm Oh carrying you.
Well, quite a few things happened today with regards to how the teachers handled certain situations. But since we have addressed it I don't think its appropriate to mention her.
During snacks time, you also were crying. Daddy was so worried if you will eat when crying, that he decided to go in and soothe you down.
When its playmat time, you are in such a bad mood you didn't want to join unlike yesterday. So you sat on a table playing toys by yourself, soon after joined by Matthias. For the rest of the lesson, you didn't join in the mat time at all.
After school, we brought you to Macdonalds for breakfast since you didn't eat at all in school. And you had a balloon from the Mac's auntie, hope it cheered you up.
***12 January 2008 Monday***
Today is Monday, the first day we said bye bye to you at the classroom door. You didn't cry at separation, and Mommy Daddy hide somewhere to take peeps at you. You sat at a table in a daze for very very long. There were toys in front of you but you weren't touching them. You were looking at kids playing around you, and the kids crying around you. Mommy Daddy were silently urging you to go play. Then you did move, and did something we least expected.
You stood up from your chair, and walked to the cupboard. You rummaged in the cupboard for a while, and took out a huge toy aeroplane. Mommy Daddy thought that finally you are taking something to play. But no. You walked to a table where there was a crying boy, and you put the toy on his table, and gently nudged it in front of him! Then you walked away. This entire act took maybe 5mins, but it left a deep imprint on Mommy Daddy's hearts. We are so proud of you, and I am not ashamed to say Mommy shed a few tears to see that. Maybe it wouldn't seem like much to others, but it meant something to us because these 1-2mths you have started snatching toys and exhibiting a reluctance to share things. We were worried how you will behave in school.
Here we are so worried about how you are settling in, yet you found in yourself the heart to console another friend crying whilst you yourself were not exactly in your comfort zone in the first place. I love you my boy.
You then went to join in 2 friends to play a ball game.
About 10mins later, you suddenly started crying. I think it was the crying classmates getting to you though you held it up pretty well initially. Poor thing, Mommy Daddy was outside peeping at you all the while.
Throughout the whole 2.5hours class, you didn't play anything at all. You were alternately crying and sobbing. We can see your chest heaving even when you weren't outright brawling. Even when you go to the gym where there's your fav car rides and slides, you didn't even join in. all the while holding tightly to whichever teachers hands and not participating. We so heartpain, especially when we see you sitting alone at a table not doing anything but staring around.
Despite telling ourselves this will get better, we cannot help wondering how long this will take. :(
At the gym, what made it worse was when Daddy accidentally showed his face at the one-way window! You started wailing for him again and again, the teacher had to lie to you that Daddy went home, and she came out to tell the other parents/grandmothers off for appearing in the window (me and Daddy were hiding so she doesn't know we are the culprits :P).
You walking into the library corner.
At the end of school, you saw us and started crying very pitifully, hugging us very very tight.
***13 January 2008 Tuesday***
We let you bring a diecast toy (Culdee) and your water bottle into class today as your comfort items. (You lost your Culdee, but remembered your waterbottle.)
Today you cried at separation. We had to wave byebye to you and forced ourselves to walk off. You were wailing very very loudly and could be heard even when we nearing the foyer area. Jayden's mom asked if we wanna go back to soothe you. I didn't need much persuasion, so I went back. You were still crying but Ms Marie was trying to pretend to let you call Mommy Daddy on the telephone in the classroom.
Mommy played with you on the ball toy and you were happily distracted. I slowly inched you onto your own chair (you were sitting on my lap) then signalled for the chinese teacher to come over. When she's here and distracting you with a toy durian, Mommy patted your head and said byebye and walked off. You started crying but you didn't get up to follow me. I walked out and joined daddy. We went for breakfast.
When we came back Daddy peeped at you and saw you singing the "if you're happy" song and shouting "Hurray" with the lyrics. Yeah! :P I then peeped at you in the last 15mins of the lesson, and saw you standing beside Mdm Oh at the front of the playmat, prob doing your usual kaypoh acts like you like to do in JG. hehe, thats means our Jovann is back! When the kids taking school bus left the class, you waved byebye at them, then took your water bottle from the many bottles the teacher laid out on the table, and held onto it. Jayden today is the first time taking school bus, and he was so cool about it, waiting his turn on the playmat.
When you came out and saw us, you were so happy you kept calling "Mommy Mommy!" and told Mdm Oh your parents are here. She let go your hand and you ran towards us very happily. Such a difference from yesterday. Mdm Oh said you again didn't eat your snacks today.
***14 January 2008 Wednesday***
When we reached the foyer where we are supposed to drop you with your teachers, you cried. You ran to the playground, and Mdm Oh fetched you from there. You were crying and crying and she had to carry you into the class.
After our breakfast, Daddy bumped into Mdm Oh washing the bowls in the canteen, and she said you finished all your coco pops, and asked Daddy is it that you like coco pops. Wow, what an amazing piece of news. Mommy tried cornflakes and coco crunch with you before but you didn't like them. I decided I will buy some for you today. :) (so later I brought you to NTUC after your nap, and asked you what you eat today in school. You pointed at almost all the boxes, so I nearly bought all. :P)
When school ended, you were as excited to see me as yesterday. Auntie Brenda was there with Arianne already, and you swerved to meet Auntie Brenda instead. Hehee.
***15 January 2008 Thursday***
Mdm Oh met us at the foyer this morning, and you cried as usual but you actually let her hold your hand instead of struggling like you did yesterday. And the funny thing is you walked away with her to the classroom crying, but without a backward glance at us!!!
When school ended, Mommy was there alone to fetch you for the first time. Daddy had to go back to work already. Saw you playing with the playmat and getting your magazines from Mdm Oh.
You walked out holding a pretty girl Kimberley's hands. You saw me and greeted me happily, but refused to hold my hand when I wanted to! You told me "no, hold hands!" At this age, you already prefer holding hands with your "girlfriend" and not mommy! Goodness. :o
We walked to the bus stop the first time today, tried the shady private estate route. On the way out, you saw kids boarding the school bus and said you want to take bus. Mommy told you we going to take big bus. On the way to the bus stop, you saw a WISH parked there and happily shouted out "Daddy's car!".
We took bus for the first time today.You looked a big stunned sitting on a big bus seat by yourself. I put my right hand in front of your body and told you you need a "seatbelt". You pushed my hand away and attempted searching for a real seat belt on the right side of the seat hehe. I then told you big bus no seatbelt so Mommy's hand is the seat belt. Only then did you allow me to hold it there.
***16 January 2008 Friday***
Breakthrough! Can't believe it haha.
This morning, when we reached the foyer Mdm Oh is not around as she had just fetched 2 kids into the classroom. Daddy decided to try asking you to walk to the classroom yourself, since you weren't crying. You actually obeyed him, and started in the right direction. Daddy and Mommy were quite stunned for that few seconds, and both stood there gazing after you. You turned back, saw us standing there like idiots with our mouth hanging open, and commanded "No, you sit down!". We obeyed, and you continued on your way holding onto your waterbottle. We can't believe it!
You were met halfway by the 2 teachers in the neighbouring class, who then walked you to your class and handed you over to Ms Marie.
We went for breakfast still in a daze hahaa.
Mommy fetched you when school finished. We crossed the overhead bridge to the bus stop again.
This time we took the less sheltered big slope route coz the weather wasn't burning hot. When you reached the road, you actually said you want to take taxi. Mommy persuaded you to take bus hehee.
When we reached the bus stop opposite, you were super funny. You sat like this with your hands held up. You said something like "I want to take bus", and held your hands like this for quite long. Hahahaaa...
Pls don't ask me why Jovann did this. He didn't tell me. Prob he saw me flagging the cab and bus this way? And you looked real serious doing this, I had to try so hard not to laugh. SO funny hahahaha!
*************************************
That's you in your first 1 week of so of starting school. You can see the transition and the maturing over a span of 7 days of school. Its Monday again tomorrow, who knows what it might bring?
No comments:
Post a Comment